I was assaulted a couple times by my ex while we were still together, but I didn’t even realize it until after I had broken up with them (for other reasons). Several times, I would spend the night and in the morning I would find myself having sex with them but not remember waking up or starting. I realized that they had started touching me or having sex with me while I was still asleep. This continued after we had broken up and remained friends. They wanted to be friends with benefits but I told them several times I didn’t want a sexual relationship. This was their way of pretending like I had consented to sleeping with them. I’d bring up that I didn’t want to have sex anymore and they would blow me off saying that I’d said that in the past but still slept with them. I had not given consent.